What to Do When Your Goal Feels Far Away

The first time you set a goal, cast a vision, you are lit up. 
Why? Because we’re plugged into possibility, desire, vision, values. We’re standing in the warm glow of our inner-genius. 

Then… life happens. 

There’s a stumble. 
Maybe we skip the action we promised ourselves we’d take. 
We fall into the same old habits that sabotage the very thing we say we want. 
Our big, beautiful idea lands with a thud. People don’t respond with the enthusiasm we hoped for. 
We stall. 

And that’s when the negative cycle rolls in like fog—shame, guilt, blame, self-criticism, judgment, fear, maybe self-pity. 

This is exactly the moment to recommit. Not with one heroic leap, but with small steps that create momentum. 

Like my client who almost abandoned her dream project—until we spotted that perfectionism was the real saboteur. We dropped the illusion of controlling the future and built messy, doable milestones she could start right away. 

Or like last month when I realized I’d read my half marathon training plan wrong and skipped half the workouts. I didn’t quit—I started where I was, training for the sheer joy of feeling strong again. 

So when the negative mental cycles roll in, we can cut through it and recommit. Gay Hendricks (author of The Genius Zone) offers a piercing question for moments like this: 

“When I’m unhappy, what am I trying to control that I can’t?” 

Because we can’t control outcomes. 
We can’t control what others think of us. 
We can’t control the future. 
Or the past. 

But we can honor the dream that called us here in the first place. We can recommit—again and again—until we arrive. 

Consistent, small, imperfect actions are what weave the net that eventually catches your goal. 

Stay Wild, 

Meghan